Feeling stuck and uncertain?
Trying to figure out who you are and what that means with family and friends if it’s different than what they expect/want from you?
In the prime of your life but struggling with an inside voice saying you’re not good enough?
Bored with your career and not where you thought you’d be in life by now?
“Worried-about-worrying-about” feeling left out or behind?
So many of us from time-to-time are faced with challenges and frustrations as we set off to find purpose, satisfaction, and joy in our lives. Feeling stretched and worried about your job, friends, or romantic relationships and how to do it all right is not uncommon.
Taking time with a challenging but compassionate therapist to focus on finding a new path is important. My Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)/Relational Life Therapy (RLT) training approach uses psycho-educational tools and research based concepts that help you assess, learn, and redirect.
| Adulting 1o1/Identity/Romance/Pre-Marital Prep |
- Figure out how to launch and thrive in the adult world. Find out who you are and make it feel real and meaningful.
- Navigate the challenge of the digital dating arena (39% meet online these days) — is it real and if so, where does this lead?
- Heal from unhealthy relationships or difficult breakups, codependency, family dynamics, stress and anxiety, perfectionism.
- Know who you are and come to peace with it within you, your family, and friends: Straight, gay, or otherwise … loving and living is the plan!
- Be married, living together, or just dating (32+% access counseling in U.S. CDC, 2015). Know what does it mean to find, nurture, and keep love and companionship in this modern age.
| Marriage Enrichment/Careers/Family/Parenting |
- Relationships can be challenging. Ups and downs are normal. Staying together matters. As a Relational Life Therapy (RLT) trained marriage counselor, reality checks about what each of you need and don’t need, balance of power analyses, and accountability management are among key factors that we will look at together. Clear guidance on what works and what doesn’t, is what you’ll get in here!
- Cut, carve, slice, and dice in this competitive town to not only bring home the bacon, but be able to enjoy it with your family, kids, and romantic partner. To make it all worth it. To feel that it’s meaningful and fulfilling.
- Balance a two-career driven household (72% of U.S. homes are dual income, Census 2019) and feel like you’ve still got it and are loving it when you get home at night. Or help often highly-educated successful parents take leave and stay home to raise kids (29% are staying home – that number is up 6% from 1999, Pew Research, 2018) and feel good about how to balance that shift and do it well.
- Help couples and individual parents transition into the awesome but often chaotic life of babies and parenthood (average 1st baby age 21.4 years old in 1970 to 26.6 in 2016, CDC 2014).
- Not live a life of “quiet desperation.” In the midst of the all above welcomed gifts but challenging pressures, stay connected with your neighbor, be a good citizen, fulfil your creative extracurricular goals, keep your body, mind, and spirit healthy — and yet still carve time out for yourself on your own or with your partner.
| Divorced/Blended-Families |
- No one likes divorce. So couples need to try hard to make it work. But, if after sincere effort is given and it must happen, my work is to support couples and families to do it right.
- Ideally to close it with mutual understanding, respect, and forgiveness, especially when there are children involved.
- How to support these children to move forward with love and access to both parents without guilt, shame, or manipulation.
- Blending families with children (16% U.S., Pew 2019) of all ages and backgrounds can bring lots of joy but also lots of challenge. Differing parenting styles, new logistic matrixes, and the shifting schedules of two homes can be complicated and stressful.
- How to “close-out” or continue in a new heathy way with extended families who often remain in your circle when children are involved.
| Trauma/Chronic-Illness/Death-and-Loss |
- Accidents and illness are never planned and coping with it for ourselves, families, children, and loved ones can be extrodinarily exhausting (6 out of 10 in U.S. live with at least 1 chronic disease such as heart disease and stroke, cancer, or diabetes, CDC 2019).
- Helping you to have faith and courage in this tough time of trauma is what matters. Keeping focused and effective in decision-making, planning, and protecting you and your loved ones during this trial is vital.
- Kings and queens on down sadly don’t live forever. Learning to heal and live with loss is part of life. Helping you to learn how to “healthy-grieve” and ultimately move on with joy, acceptance, and peace is important.
Skills and tools to become more mindful, resilient, and compassionate toward yourself and the others in your life. Redirect to a better place for you, your career, your family and loved ones!