• “She’ll Tell You What Your Friends Won’t…And That’s A Good Thing!”

COVID-19 ALERT: COUNSELING SESSIONS ARE ONLY BEING OFFERED VIA HIPAA SECURE VIRTUAL TELEHEALTH ZOOM AT THIS TIME.

*** NOTE: BEGINNING SEPTEMBER 1, 2021, A "3-WEEK VIRTUAL/1-WEEK IN-OFFICE" BLENDED FORMAT OPTION WILL BE AVAILABLE FOR THOSE WHO WISH SOME FACE-TO-FACE  IN-OFFICE TIME.   FULL VIRTUAL WILL REMAIN AN OPTION AS WELL. Thank you.


Welcome: Complimentary 15-30 min Intro-Consultation

Good news is you're in the right place...

However, 1st an Important Step! In my over 20 years of doing this work, I know that counseling is a professional relationship where if we don't "click," it doesn't work. It matters to connect and be sure.

That's why I offer a no charge Complimentary Intro-Consultation. You can tell me what has you stuck. I can assess whether my skill base is right for you and answer any questions you have about my counseling process. Feeling safe and well-informed before you begin is important. Only then can you best determine whether our working together makes good sense. If yes, then we can begin and get you back on track fast. On track to survive and thrive!

"She’ll tell you what your friends won’t --- and that's what results in your time and money well-spent."

"So glad I found a a highly-experienced therapist who 'get's it' and gets to results fast."

"As she always tells me, your life is not a dress rehersal. It's real and each day matters!"

Well-known around NOVA, I am a clear-talking, solution-focused but still empathetic therapist. I incorporate a mix of the following researched-based highly effective therapy treatments in my work with singles, couples, families and teens:

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Relational Life Therapy (RLT)
  • Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS)
  • Gottman Marital Relationship Therapy

Together we'll help you find your best self. Help you unearth and change habits and patterns that aren’t cutting it --- ones that ultimately hold either you, your family/child relationships, marriage, parents, and/or work relationships back from experiencing a life that feels right and keeps you excited about waking up and jumping into your day!

CONFUSION and EXHAUSTION?
CONFLICT and NUMBNESS?
ANXIETY and SADNESS?
DISCONNECTED FROM THOSE YOU LOVE ... AND ... THEM FROM YOU???
...... it can all be just so overwhelming

LOCATION NOTE: For future plannings once COVID is passed, our physical office is located adjacent to Reston Hospital at the Sugar Oak Office Retreat intersection of Elden Street and the Fairfax County Parkway.

As Seen In

#WHAT’S UP?

I AM HERE TO HELP!  Many of the counseling approaches used over the past decades are out-dated.  Only listening, nodding, and affirming doesn’t cut it anymore... By the time you come into my office you’ve had it!

In today's career-competitive, consumer-culture, and tech-driven world you and your family are stuck and need new! Counseling to help identify and break old dysfunctional patterns is what works. I use data-driven psycho-educational tools that not only work in session, but more importantly, back at home where it really counts. Counts so you and your family can find success to:

| Teens & Parenting |
  • Stay connected and loving with your growing kids as they become teens. But still set and stick to healthy boundaries to hold back the school, social, and online tech world that brings it all right into your home (95% of today’s teens have a cell phone. Up from 34% in 2012. Common Sense Media, 2020).
  • What does it mean to negotiate and coach that safely with them? Safely but letting them learn and explore and love being ... a kid! Help you and the happy family unit you grew up in stay connected. Or to heal and break the damage cycle from the wounds of the ones that weren’t. And to grieve that loss and move on in a healthy peaceful way.
  • Figure out how to launch yourself and/or your kids and thrive in the adult world. Find out who you are and make it feel real and meaningful.
| Adulting 1o1/ Careers / Gay & Straight Romance |
  • Navigate the challenge of the digital dating arena (39% meet online these days) --- is it real and if so, where does this lead?
  • Heal from unhealthy relationships or difficult breakups, codependency, family dynamics, stress and anxiety, perfectionism.
  • Know who you are and come to peace with it within you, your family, and friends: Straight, gay, or otherwise … loving and living is the plan!
  • Be married, living together, or just dating (32+% access counseling in U.S. CDC, 2015). Know what does it mean to find, nurture, and keep love and companionship in this modern age.\
  • Cut, carve, slice, and dice in this competitive town to not only bring home the bacon, but be able to enjoy it with your family, kids, and romantic partner. To make it all worth it. To feel that it's meaningful and fulfilling.
|  Marriage Counseling / Family Enrichment / Pre-Marital Prep |
  • Relationships can be challenging. Ups and downs are normal. Clear guidance on what works and what doesn't, is what you'll get in here! Reality checks about what each of you need and don't need, balance of power analyses, and accountability management are among key factors that we will look at together.
  • Balance a two-career driven household (72% of U.S. homes are dual income, Census 2019) and feel like you've still got it and are loving it when you get home at night. Or, help often highly-educated successful parents take leave and stay home to raise kids (29% are staying home - that number is up 6% from 1999, Pew Research, 2018) and feel good about how to balance that shift and do it well.
  • Help couples and individual parents transition into the awesome but often chaotic life of babies and parenthood (average 1st baby age 21.4 years old in 1970 to 26.6 in 2016, CDC 2014).
  • Not live a life of "quiet desperation." In the midst of the all above welcomed gifts but challenging pressures, stay connected with your neighbor, be a good citizen, fulfil your creative extracurricular goals, keep your body, mind, and spirit healthy — and yet still carve time out for yourself on your own or with your partner.
| Divorce/Blended-Families |
  • None likes divorce. So couples need to try hard to make it work. But, if after sincere effort is given and it must happen, my work is to support couples and families to do it right.
  • Ideally to close it with mutual understanding, respect, and forgiveness, especially when there are children involved.
  • How to support these children to move forward with love and access to both parents without guilt, shame, or manipulation.
  • Blending families with children (16% U.S., Pew 2019) of all ages and backgrounds can bring lots of joy but also lots of challenge. Differing parenting styles, new logistic matrixes, and the shifting schedules of two homes can be complicated and stressful.  However, a successful blended family can be redemptive, breaking the cycle for the next generations to come.
  • How to "close-out" or continue in a new heathy way with extended families who often remain in your circle when children are involved.
| Trauma/Chronic-Illness/Grief-and-Loss |
  • Accidents and illness are never planned and coping with it for ourselves, families, children, and loved ones can be extrodinarily exhausting (6 out of 10 in U.S. live with at least 1 chronic disease such as heart disease and stroke, cancer, or diabetes, CDC 2019).
  • Helping you to have faith and courage in this tough time of trauma is what matters. Keeping focused and effective in decision-making, planning, and protecting you and your loved ones during this trial is vital.
  • Kings and queens on down sadly don’t live forever. Learning to heal and live with loss is part of life. Helping you to learn how to "healthy-grieve" and ultimately move on with joy, acceptance, and peace is important.

 

I’ll get you back on track fast. On track to survive and thrive!